She isn’t my mother.
She isn’t my sister.
She’s one of the family
Who’s more like a friend.
She has fun with me,
laughs with me,
listens to me, encourages me.
She spends time with me,
believes in me,
shares with me, cheers for me.
She understands me like a mother.
She’s there for me like a sister.
And perhaps best of all –
she loves me like a friend. ~Kimberly Rinchart
My little man, what else can I say? I’ve reviewed how Kyle resembles my brother – his dad, my sister – his Aunt Nikki, my dad – his pappy, and my mom – his Gigi. There are a lot of cross over similarities and yet there are some traits that are distinctly a particular person.
Does Kyle resemble me at all? He sure does! Yes it’s true, Kyle is more of the engineering mind, but he is also a rare bread, complete with innovation, a strong personality, social skills and a business visionary.
Obviously, Kyle’s physical traits don’t really resemble mine much. I will admit we do have the same type of skin, at least at this point in his life. Also our noses. We both have the perfect button noses. A trait I’ve claimed as ours. As for all other physical traits, you can’t even tell he’s related to me, our body types are different. We don’t stand the same, or walk the same, and our outward presentations are not similar, not in the slightest. If we talk about personality traits, now we’re getting somewhere!
As a baby just learning to walk, Kyle was always very structured. What I mean is that everything had to be perfectly aligned. Perfectly! Kyle loved his Matchbox Cars, literally having hundreds of them. He would take the cars out one-by-one, examine them, and then line them up on the coffee table in rows. Every car was facing the same direction, front bumper to back, in perfect lines, until the entire coffee table was covered in Matchbox Cars. That’s all he would do until it was time to put them away. Well, except if I was being ornery.
Once when Kyle was nearly finished placing the cars, I waited for the perfect time for him to look away to retrieve another car. I took my foot and pushed the coffee table over so the cars slid off and all landed on the floor. I know it sounds mean, but the look on his face was hilarious! He was first in complete shock like he just witnessed an earthquake for his cars. Then, as he noticed my foot still on the evidence, a complete realization of what just happened settled in. His nose crinkled, his face soured, and he came over to me and begin to push my foot off the side of the table saying “No Aiya! No!” Making it very clear that this was no acceptable behavior. He looked like my sister when she gets angry with me! I know, it’s not nice to tease, but it’s good to shake things up with these engineers. Keeps it real.
Kyle not only aligned his cars but also his juice boxes in the refrigerator. They had to be right side-up, facing front in a perfect line on the shelf. Let me tell you about convenience stores. If I would extract a bottle of water from inside the cooler, Kyle would realign the bottles making sure all the labels were facing out. If the second bottle didn’t slide down to the front, then Kyle would help it along. Bystanders that have actually witnessed this behavior, smiled at the precious narcissistic little boy. I will admit, I tend to have the same disposition, everything orderly, tidy and aligned. I do notice details, as does Kyle, and sometimes the smallest things drive me crazy. Although, Kyle tends to be very selective with his details and neatness. He is not always consistent but the natural tendencies are certainly there.
Granted as Kyle grows and as he is presented with different situations, he shows traits from all of us, including his business mind. Not everyone has the ability to be structured and think out of the box and use forward thinking. My brother had a business mind, as does my dad and both equally have the work ethic to accompany such talents. I do believe I possess these traits as well, similar to Kyle. He has this unique thinking of setting and accomplishing goals and the ability to understand the idea of profit while maintaining the integrity of business. A regular businessman. How do I know? I’m not just making a broad statement. He has proved it through the interaction and assistance of my company The Piper Corporation (Thrill of the Hunt, SpyRing). Yes with the little involvement he has had, he has shown me all these traits. He is also a natural leader and he knows how to (and does without any quorums) delegate. Once I teach him to properly follow up and address everyone with respect, and learn how to really utilize resources, he will be a force to reckon with. I just hope I am able to instill a good work ethic and appropriate business practices with good moral intentions.
Kyle’s people skills are pretty impressive! He knows how to use his manners and speak directly to others. Granted, sometimes he is a bit too direct, but like me, I love the candor and tend to steer in that direction. Again as he matures, I can see his social skills tightening up and sharpening. He already knows how to work a crowd to get their attention and to get what he wants, similar to his Aunt Heather.
As much as Kyle thinks, and he is a thinker, he forgets to think equally as much. This behavior tends to get us both in sticky situations.
We both love to fish and I will admit, like Kyle, if I’m doing something I like, I want to perfect it and practice beforehand. Story time! Once when I was in elementary school, probably a little younger than Kyle is now, I decided to go outside and take advantage of the nice day and practice casting my fishing pole. At the time mom had a dogwood tree in the middle of the yard. Why is this relevant? Because as I repeatedly cast my pole, I would caught a branch and have to pull my line out. One would think that I would have just moved away from the tree, after all I had an entire yard. But nope, I stood my ground until I cast my line in the top of the tree and couldn’t pull it out. Yikes! I didn’t know what to do. Naturally the smart thing to do would have to cut the line. Not me! Instead I decreased the slack on the line and pulled the entire pole toward the top of the tree. Yes, I let the fishing pole hang there in the dogwood tree. Later that day, when dad came home from work, he noticed it instantly and asked no one in particular, in a very even toned voice, “Why is there a fishing pole in the tree?” I said, “I was practicing my casting and it got stuck.” Nonchalantly dad replied, “Well don’t you think you better get it out?” I knew I should, but for the life of me I didn’t realize at the time, breaking the line was an option, that is until weeks later when dad did just that.
Sometimes Kyle goes on his one track-mind and doesn’t bother to open his eyes to those around him. I’m sure this will change as he grows, after all he is a sincere caring kid. He is not malicious in anyway. Although, I do the same, but it’s only because my mind is usually focused on other things, probably similar to Kyle’s. At this point in his life, I would put my life on it, that it’s Legos! Over the years, I can’t even tell you how many people would say they saw me, and I NEVER saw them. Even if I walked right past them. This happens a lot when I’m driving. Hopefully, I’m concentrating on road, although I’m guessing my mind is wondering elsewhere, but not towards Legos.
Kyle’s a dreamer too. Not just uses his imagination, which he totally does, but he is a visionary. He always creates these grandiose ideas of how something should be, or how it will be or how it’s going to unfold. I tend to be that dreamer too. But I do believe that’s a great quality to have, especially being an entrepreneur. Dreaming big is never a bad thing, just failure to act on it is.
There are so many more comparisons including the love of snow! We both enjoy sled-riding, snowboarding and the crisp cool days. Neither one of us like to be hot and we certainly don’t enjoy sweating, even though he does more than me.
We both love to cook and to experiment with ingredients. Maybe more me than Kyle, but we love to try new foods and learn and understand different culture.
And like the rest of the family, there is one trait we all posses besides believing in God. I don’t mean to omit the big Guy because to me that’s a standard, however I’m learning it’s not the case with most people. But this time I’m talking about TRAVELING! We are all equally intrigued by the rest of the world, new sights and the sense of adventure. None of us has ever been afraid to explore and my parents have always encouraged this behavior. Which speaking of, this week is ‘Aunt Nikki and Kyle’s Week of Fun!’ They are doing a road trip tour of the New England States. How fun! Next trip, I’m going to sneak my way in on the action!
I guess Kyle is a little bit of each of us, making him the perfect mix! He’s a little bit country and a little bit rock n’ roll. (That’s for mom’s benefit!)
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