Becoming a grandmother is wonderful. One moment you’re just a mother. The next you are all-wise and prehistoric. ~Pam Brown
Gigi and her Kyle. When there needs to be a negative comparison it’s usually between these two, for those seemingly unfavorables, appear to stand out. Yet there is more than meets the eye.
Kyle has always pointed out that he shares Gigi, his Aunt Nikki and his dad’s blue eyes. I was told, “Ya not you Aunt Heather, you and pappy have brown eyes.” Yes that’s certainly true, but I didn’t realize his blue eyes made him royalty. Regardless, Kyle does have really pretty blue eyes and I’m glad that is a shared trait between him, his dad, his Gigi and his Aunt Nikki.
Does Kyle and Gigi both share their aversion for physical activity? You bet they do! Even so much as to mope around with their heads down when they have to do a little bit of work, or walk an extra two feet. It’s complete torture for them. They both drive me crazy when it comes to that. Do they both like to complain? Again, a big YES! It’s actually kind of funny. When neither one wants to do something or they disagree, they sort of grunt and make noises. Dad calls it “Letting the air out of the tires.” Just to share in this trait, so does Aunt Nikki.
Is that all the similarities between mom and Kyle? Nope, not even close. Even though he tends to favor my sister more, and there is no secret that Nicole and mom are a lot alike too, sometimes too much, Kyle did pick up more from his Gigi.
Besides the physical traits of having the blue eyes and lighter hair color, Kyle also shares some personality traits as well as behavioral ones with mom.
On a side note, I do want to call out that Kyle shares mom’s, dad’s and his dad’s talent for having a sense of direction. The department Nicole and I miserably fail in. What a great quality!
Let’s start with innovation. Yes, mom is such an innovator, if that’s the right word for her. This goes on all aspects of life. When it comes to cooking she doesn’t need a recipe, or specific ingredients. Mom can make a great meal out of cupboard items and miscellaneous food found in the refrigerator, on the fly. No preparation, no research, just mixing and matching and voila! A unique meal, that is favorable to the taste buds (as long as she doesn’t burn it). Kyle is following mom’s knack with food experimentation. He is certainly taking her lead when he is mixing items together, even something as simple as a smoothie. Kyle is already breaking away from the standard and the ordinary and is creating his own. That, I must say takes, guts, talent and skills, maybe a little adventure, which I completely support and encourage. There has been many a time when I wouldn’t have a said ingredient and mom would say, “Ahh just use this instead. Not as good but it should be alright.” The word “should” throws me every time, but I always trust the Gig (our shortened term for Gigi or mom).
Mom is also innovative with everyday household items and situations. If something is broke or missing, mom can adjust accordingly on the spot to make it work. Yes sometimes it involves the use of duct-tape. Her substitutions, however crazy they may appear, usually work. Kyle can also think out of the box and adjust to to solve a much larger problem. What really cracks me up, both, mom and Kyle usually think this way to eliminate additional work. They truly love to take the easy route. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, except if you will not carry on with an activity because of the perception of it being too difficult due to the laziness mind set. Once when Kyle was a much smaller tyke, maybe four or fives years old, he said, “I want to build Gigi a robot to help her do housework, so she doesn’t have to.” Yep, somewhere the Olczak engineering gene resides in both of them.
Usually accompanying innovation are details. Yes, the smallest part of a plan or story. When mom is telling a story she will give every minor detail before she gets to the point at hand, always having to prod her along. Now I know where I get it! At least my details reside in the form of writing and event planning, another trait of mom’s. Kyle follows all details, no matter how small, especially when it comes to putting his Lego’s together. Yes again, that must be an Olczak thing, the tiniest of all details is never overlooked.
Mom is also a passive aggressive person, which is not my favorite by far. Instead of getting to the point or spitting it out, she will go around and around till you figure out what she wants. Not me! I would rather just say it or have someone do me that favor. I do tend to appreciate candor more than politeness. Can you guess who else does this? Yes! The one and only Kyle Piper. He will go around and around on a topic or subject without just asking the question or getting to the point. There have been so many times I’ve said, “Kyle what do you want?! Just spit it out, I can’t read your mind!” I’ve always encouraged Kyle to ask, but also not to expect him to get his own way.
There is one topic that will get Kyle and his Gigi to spit out their feelings, that’s blood and gore. Yep, both have a really weak stomach for such things including needles, surgery and even a pronounced scratch. Can’t say that I understand. The only thing that really gets to me is feces, which can I be blamed? I’m talking about real life and not TV drama. Mom could never stand it when we got hurt, including dad. Every time one of us broke our leg roller skating (Nicole), nail stuck up the foot (me), sliced our head open from the debarker at the sawmill (Ryan), mom would never look in our direction. She would either call my cousin Paula who is an RN, or my cousin Karen, who doesn’t mind, or another one of the our family friends in the medical field to inspect the damage, seeing if it was hospital worthy.
Side story. When I was around five or so, my grandparent’s dog, Lady, bit me along the side of the head, just missing my eye. Not to mention scratched up my chest pretty good. Naturally I had to get stitches, without Novocain! As the doctor had my head turned sideways to apply the stitches that I could see go into my head, I also saw mom in the near distance. She was sitting in the corner of the emergency room, with her legs crossed, bouncing her one leg up and down, and looking away from me. Wouldn’t even come near me to hold my hand! She kept her distance even after all the crying for her. Yep, mom can’t deal with emergency situations!
Kyle on the other hand, is the exact same! Last summer I got a bad case of Taking On Poison Sumac. I had to go to the MedCare to have it looked at. Yes, it was that bad! The entire time Kyle, who was trying to be supportive said to me, “Boy Aunt Heather I hope you don’t have to get a shot! I hate shots.” Guess what? Yes, they needed to give me a steroid shot. Kyle took one look at that needle and about turned green. It’s not just for other people he has no stomach for blood, for himself too. If he flosses his teeth too hard and they draw a little bit of blood, forget it! He’s in complete panic mode.
Maybe it’s the idea of pain that scares them. Mom and Kyle are both babies when it comes to pain. Pain upon themselves as well as others. I’m not saying I like any physical discomfort, but I know I can take quite a bit. I would rather have pain inflicted on myself than to watch another suffer. Mom and Kyle, can’t deal with either. If Kyle gets a scratch he is wailing and thrashing around with perceived pain and agony. Even from a small one inch long thorn scratch. Maybe they both have extra sensitive skin.
Of course, dealing with real life situations are usually accompanied by chaos and panic, I get it. Neither mom nor Kyle can handle such stressful situations. They don’t respond to pressure. But to see it on the big screen? Even when it’s fake? Nope, neither one has a stomach for it.
Usually gory and graphic is accompanied with suspense and thriller. Words that most certainly are not accompanied with mom or Kyle. Scary movies? Forget it! I’ve seen Kyle nearly rip the arm off of the couch when he’s watching a show, and it doesn’t have to be a thriller, any show that causes tension. Kyle will almost get so engrossed into what he’s watching, it’s like he’s living it. Mom on the other hand, will bury her face in a pillow like an Ostrich and cover he ears so she is as far removed from the sights and sounds around her.
I don’t get it really. Mom and Kyle both have a flare for the dramatic. Remember when I was talking about pain? Yep that’s usually when their theatrical performances take center stage. Even if something doesn’t go accordingly, and let’s face it, in life when does it ever, that is their time to drip in drama. I’m sure many can say the same for me, however I am able to keep a level head in a crisis situation, at least the ones I have experience thus far. Although, I won’t deny my love of the theatrical arts.
We may seem like we’re being mean because we are blunt and able to call out each others faults, however, I’m glad! No person is perfect and to truly see another, even a family member, for who they really are is a rare quality. No ego stroking in the Piper family. We don’t put on disguises, or act like something we’re not, we accept each other for who they are, and I wouldn’t have it any other way!
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