All life demands struggle. Those who have everything given to them become lazy, selfish, and insensitive to the real values of life. The very striving and hard work that we so constantly try to avoid is the major building block in the person we are today. ~Pope Paul VI
Trying to teach Kyle that you don’t need money or the latest and greatest video games to have fun, is surprisingly a really hard lesson to teach. At least with my little stubborn man. I can’t say it enough, he is a good kid, a truly good hearted person, but he only sees playing and having fun as an activity that has been dictated by his generation of video games. He is not accustomed to good old fashion playing outside, unless I demonstrate and participate of course.
This past weekend, Kyle wanted to play a game with me. Great! I suggested a game of chess. Denied! I suggested a game of Battle Ship. Denied! I suggested a game of Trouble (love that mindless game. We used it to reach Kyle how to count when he was wee little.) Denied! He wanted to play a few games with me on the Wii. Ok, I’ll give him that since we haven’t busted out the Wii for a while. His compromise was to play the hunting games and the Wii Sports Resort (Swordplay, Fruit Ninja, Wakeboarding). I wanted to dance to Micheal Jackson, denied! I gave in and we played, having a pretty good time. But after so long, I didn’t have the patience to sit in front of the television and play games anymore. I would rather get up and move around. Not Kyle, he wanted to continue for hours upon hours. Denied!
I pretty much have to force Kyle to undertake any activity before he realizes he’s actually having fun or enjoying himself. Time and time again this has happened. Perfect example would include his perceived dreaded hikes with the dogs, which he does enjoy while on the hike. Even after we come back from having a nice time, he still won’t admit to it. I guess it’s not cool.
As kids we made up some pretty crazy games and undertook some unusual activities to keep ourselves entertained. One of the stories I’ve shared with Kyle was the fort building.
Let me step back to state, I grew up with my brother and sister and my cousins around. So there was never a shortage of kids to play with. For Kyle, not so much. I know that has a lot to do with the way he plays and his interests, but I do try as best I can.
Anyway, when we were kids, we used to chop down trees, yes with a hatchet, smaller trees, probably about six inches in diameter and stack them on top of each other to form a fort. Yes, a real fort with four sides, nestled back in the woods. We would play in and around this fort all day.
Near this location were these large vines that hung over a small creek. We would take turns swinging back and forth on the natural ropes like Tarzan and Jane. It was so much fun. We did all this with our dog Jill hanging around, without parental supervision, while everyone was getting along and getting dirty and exercise.
Let’s be realistic, I don’t really have a desire to build another fort anymore. However, if Kyle really wanted to, I would, but since manual labor is not at the top of his list, we never relived those good old days.
Instead, dad decided he wants to raise chickens. Apparently, I’m going to construct a chicken coop, correction, Kyle and me are going to build a chicken coop soon. I guess that’s close enough to a fort. At least he’s doing something productive, in real life. I Need To Build My House – Video Games.
As far as the whole experience including the vine swinging goes, I’ve actually taken Kyle in the woods and we have done just that! He even enjoyed himself! Although for me it seemed more fun as a kid, but for Kyle, who is still a youngster, it was a new experience. There is something about swinging past trees that is so relaxing and fun.
Now onto the gold. Another quick story of how we used our imagination and every day items to create our own pastimes.
One day Ryan was tinkering around in the garage, yes I believe we were still in elementary school. He was always in that garage. Anyway, he came running out yelling, “I’ve found gold! I’ve found gold!” as he darted down the driveway toward my cousin Casey and Joel’s house. What on earth?
Ryan found a can of gold spray paint and took some rocks and spray painted them. They did look like nuggets of gold. Yes we added that to the items we played with as kids, simple rocks. We even fought over the rights to the “gold nuggets” and made up war games with the “gold” as the booty.
Really it shouldn’t take much to have an imagination and to be entertained. At least not with us as kids. We found fun in everyday life, with every day things, even rocks!
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