One essential to success is that your desire be an all-obsessing one, your thoughts and aim be coordinated, and your energy be concentrated and applied without letup. ~Claude M. Bristol
Last weekend Kyle decided he wanted this new Lego. Of course, he is all things Lego and forbid if he didn’t have ALL the Lego’s. I picked Kyle up after school on Friday and from the minute he walked out the door and got into the car, he started talking about this Lego he wanted, apparently it just came out in May. Now I will give Kyle credit, as we were in route, my mom called and said a tornado just touched down in Ligonier, not far from where we would be intersecting. Leaning on the side of cautious, I wanted to be prepared in case a wind cyclone decided to explore the Greater Latrobe area. Actually, our drive was kind of eerie, there was no wind at all. Usually with light rain and the warning of a tornado, I would think there would be some wind. Nope, I was even examining the tree tops, nothing. No swaying or motion of any kind. It almost felt like the car was moving faster than reality, or like everything around us was in slow motion. Now, if there were no cars on the road I would have been a little geeked out, but since there was traffic I felt safer in the numbers. At one point I thought about deviating to my house, which was closer, to wait out the tornado warning, but eventually chose to maintain our course of action.
Kyle was a trooper, being a worry wart that he is, he kept his cool. He would toggle between talking about Lego’s and building with his friends and watching the sky for a twister. What cracks me up, between everything going on in Kyle’s mind, he would randomly manage to say, “Ok Aunt Heather the speed limit is 45, I think we should go 40.” I wasn’t speeding or coming close, but he wanted to call it out. Then he started asking me about hydroplaning. Deviating from the Lego conversation long enough, we talked about driving in snow and rain and uncontrollable dangers. I told him, “Wait till you start driving, I’ll teach you to drive in the snow and ice like Gigi taught me. She took me to the mall late at night when the weather wasn’t great and let me speed through the parking lot and slam on my breaks and slide around till I gained control.” He gave me a shocked looked. I said, “Doing that taught me how the car feels when sliding and how to counter act the steering wheel. There wasn’t anyone in close proximity and we had the space to slide around without getting hurt or doing damage. That was the best lesson I’ve had on driving.” Then I probably went into too many details, cause I mentioned “You will have to react in a car situation, whether it be sliding on ice, snow or hydroplaning and I want you to be as prepared as possible to react without freaking out. It’s unavoidable, it will happen to you a least once.” He looked like a deer in headlights. So maybe that’s why every time we turned onto another road, he informed me of the speed limit. At one point, there was no designated sign and he said, “O no Aunt Heather I’m just not sure what speed we should be at?” I smiled and told him “Sometimes you just have to use common sense. I think since it’s raining, the roads are slick and there is a possibility of a twister, let’s be safe and take it slower.” He concurred.
Once we made it home safe and sound, and he was ensured his Gigi and Pappy were safe, Kyle started again over the Lego’s. It went on ALL night. In fact, at one point he started pouting because he couldn’t see how he could possibly raise enough money over the weekend to pay for this $100 Lego that he had to have on Monday, for the last day of school. Now me being me, and not a sensitive person, especially talking about a kid who has way too much, I kind of ignored him and reiterated that most kids don’t have as much as he has, not to mention the amount of Lego’s he’s acquired over the years. In fact, I yelled at him to stop pouting. Ya right, I don’t know what good that did, it’s like asking a kid to sit still, it will never happen. Well, it didn’t, Kyle continued to mope and sit in his own self pity, which really struck a cord with me.
However, by the next morning Kyle must have had an epiphany, because he was on a mission to find or earn that money, no matter what. He was driven, starting at 6:00 in morning. I think I’ve mentioned it before, we are morning risers, so I was up around 5:00 am or so and his early morning rise is not shock me. Actually, he usually asks me to get him up as soon as I get up, knowing I don’t let my head stay on the pillow for too long after the sun rises. From the minute we turned on the lights and made our way to the couch, he stared plotting and planing out his mission. He began to fulfill his quest by outlining the work he wanted to do and by digging up money, from everywhere. Even the good old pig got a shaking, where he found another $30. My sister asked me how can that be, and to be honest I have no idea. I thought he wiped out the pig when the iPod Touch…Mission Accomplished! was purchased, but I guess he kept some money in reserves. If only our government could learn a lesson from my ten year old nephew, so when the money is needed the pig isn’t drained dry and earning the money through good old work isn’t out of the question.
Kyle approached my mom and dad regarding work to earn enough resources for the Lego. Ironically, mom was going into work on Saturday to get caught up and she had a ton of filing that needed addressed. Perfect job for Kyle, learn the workings of an office, spend some time with his Gigi and get my mom organized! On a side note, I have no idea why there is so much filing, I guess they never heard of digital files and servers verses paperwork, but whatever. He even learned what an adding machine was, although I’m not sure who still uses those.
Throughout the day, Kyle did dishes, dusting, sweeping, and he even offered to stack wood. In the rain no doubt! That I had to speak up and say no, not while it was raining. But I’ll tell ya what? He did it! Between earning and finding the money he had enough for his Lego. Now starts the true obsessing. First of all, ALL day long on Saturday that’s ALL I heard about and moving into Sunday. Kyle went with me to take the dogs for our weekly hike through the woods. For three miles that’s all I heard about, the Lego he wanted, and how he planned to bring it to the last day of school on Monday, for him and his friend Jacob to build. I’m glad he was excited, but come on Kyle! He seriously couldn’t focus on anything else. Nothing! So for an hour and a half of our hike, plus the remainder of the day Kyle talked about this Lego and all it’s parts and how much money he had and how much he needed. I was getting tired of it. I’m not saying that I don’t get excited about things but even mom had to agree, that as kids we were never this obsessed.
Finally by Sunday morning, I started to loose it. I said, “Kyle we are not a family that is revolved around money and I don’t want to hear it any more. You have enough Lego’s and you’re lucky I’m entertaining the idea of you spending the money for this toy!” He instantly said, “Ya I know Aunt Heather but I just really want to build it and show Jacob my new Lego.” He mentioned that Jacob got a new Lego too, but he couldn’t imagine how he got the money for the purchase, he said, “He must have earned the money some how, but I don’t how.” Really? Was that his concern? I don’t think so, it was the idea of a new Lego. Again, I’m happy for his happiness but give it a rest already.
Kyle even planned out when I was going to take him to the store on Sunday. This was my last straw. Except, I stood corrected when mom and I were waiting for Kyle in the car after church, he had to serve. She mentioned that if he was good, she would run him over to the store to see if they had the Lego. So now I was forced to fulfill mom’s promise to encourage her grandson’s fixation. Using church to prove my point is not the right thing to do, but I wanted to prove a point. Once Kyle got in the car I asked him “What was the reading about?”. I’ll be darned, he told me about the Gospel, in detail, paraphrasing of course. I was truly impress, assuming his one-tracked mind was focused on all things Lego during the entire mass. I must admit I was very impressed, and proud of him! Kyle was able to focus when the opportunity arose, either that or he was in cohorts with God to prove me wrong.
Once we walked the isles of the store looking for THE Lego, Kyle’s face turned into one big frown. They didn’t have it. But did that stop Kyle? No! Once we got home he began to do his investigation and found which stores locally had the toy. Not only did he get the skinny on the whereabouts of this coveted piece of plastic pieces, but he also started to check prices and print coupons. O my goodness, nothing was going to stop him and he was going to save money while he was at it!
We’ll needless to say my mom did eventually take him to the store and alas to his disappointment,
Toys-R-Us didn’t have it. Mom had to place an order and have it mailed to the house. So when they got back, Kyle started to worry if it would rain on the day the box arrived, in case no one was home to receive it. He said, “The directions would get all wet and would be ruined. Then I won’t be able to put the blocks together as per the instructions.” O my! I rolled my eyes, sighed and walked away, all patience spent for a year.
I wonder if Kyle is just driven or is he obsessed? He most certainly has drive to him, that much I will admit but he seems to go overboard. Of course, driven and successful people seem to have this quality when they are passionate about something. Now I have to figure out a way to hone all this energy and drive that Kyle exudes, and put it towards good. Maybe he is in training to work for Lego someday.