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Choices & Consquences

A man does what he must – in spite of personal consequences, in spite of obstacles and dangers and pressures – and that is the basis of all human morality.  ~Winston Churchill

Aunt Heather Piper and Kyle Christmas 2003
My and Kyle Christmas 2003

There was no particular reason for this entry just for the sheer fact of dumping my thoughts.  I’m sure I will be referring to this entry later down the road, but for now just take it at face value.

Teaching right and wrong is supposed to be cut and dry.  Black and white.  Is it that easy or do I make it more difficult than it needs to be?  I mean, there are the basic rules that we should always abide by, such as the 10 Commandments and of course the Beatitudes, Biblically speaking.  Then there are the rules established by our government, which should be treated with the same respect, unless interfering with the holy orders established by God.

Now, sitting here telling you that I’ve always been perfect and obeyed all the laws laid out before me would break a law, Thou Shall Not Lie.  Yes, I have broken my share of traffic violations, some intentional and some through sheer ignorance.  Now I don’t believe ignorance is an excuse either. In most cases it’s just an easy way to not question or to not pay attention.  Now, I can’t claim to be a perfect Catholic either, although I do try my best and work at it daily.

I have explained to Kyle that we, as humans, are blessed with free will, which allows us to choose right or wrong.  No one person is perfect.  Everyone makes mistakes.  But those who acknowledge their wrong doing, ask for forgiveness and repent will always be forgiven.  Once we have taken these steps we should not live the guilt but only try again to do better and try to uphold the divine law, learning from our mistakes and doing better.

I’m not sure if I’m right or wrong, but I’ve taught Kyle as I’ve always lived, explaining to Kyle that everyone has choices.  Some choices are better than others.  It’s my job to teach Kyle about doctrine law and state law.  Then, when the time comes for him to make a choice, he knows his options and fully understands his decision.  I’ve always explained that there have been times when I chose to break the law, for one reason or another.  I have always explained that it was my choice.  Once you make that conscience decision, you had better be prepared to pay the consequences.  As I’ve said, “If you choose to break the rules, then you better be prepared to pay the punishment if caught, no matter the reason for your decision.  You better pay the consequences for your actions without complaint.”

One such example was with Kyle’s trampoline.  It clearly states that only one person was permitted to jump on it at a time.  But what fun would that be?  I explained to Kyle that it was a rule I was willing to break.  However, if either one of us got hurt because of jumping together, then that was our fault and not the company or manufacturer of the trampoline. I know this sounds pretty lame, but it’s those harmless situations that I use as an example to Kyle.

Please don’t view this entry as permission to break the rules or the laws, because it’s not.  I always want to show Kyle that everyone has choices and, with our decisions, there are consequences.  There have been times when the rules needed to be bent and I took the liberty of bending them.  But the ultimate goal is to just be the best possible person you can be and don’t be afraid of making a mistake and paying the price for it, good or bad.

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