I think you should be a child for as long as you can. I have been successful for 74 years being able to do that. ~Bob Newhart
Recently, I was talking to a friend of mine, who’s kids are now grown adults. Let’s keep it into perspective, they’re only in their twenties. We were laughing at how, especially boys, are sometimes grown and yet, they are still kids. He called them man boys. That about sums it up. It’s those moments when they act like little adults and impress the heck out of you, but then turn around and make the stupidest or most immature decisions.
Example time. The other week when we put up the Christmas tree at my parent’s house, Kyle was a huge help! The Christmas Tree He basically took the reins and screwed in the base of the tree by himself, and did it right and swiftly, without being asked. It saved dad from laying on the hardwood floor and contorting his old out-of-shape body from doing it. Dad and I were a bit astounded. Literally, dad just stood there and asked if he needed help. Nope. None was needed. Kyle even gave me direction on how to move the tree around to assist him and have it set correctly and sturdy. Excellent job!
While we were adding the lights, I was jumping from couch to stool to recliner and back again. On one of my trips, I caught the edge of the recliner, which caused it to tilt, into the tree, with me on it, out of balance. During this seemingly slow motion event, Kyle instinctively reached for me, but threw himself on the recliner to counter the weight. Eventually, I came crashing down on the edge of the recliner and into Kyle. First, we both looked at each other in shock, and then I said, “Did you try saving the tree over me?” Kyle snickered and said, “Well, it looked like the entire chair was going into the tree and I didn’t want it to fall over.” Well played buddy!
Now for the mind of a kid. After decorating, Kyle was going on a tangent about getting toys to build and play with. Granted, he is thirteen and his interests now include Warmachine as well as his videos games. However, he was getting excited like he was two years old again! A few weeks before that, he comprised a list of what he really wanted and called my sister to review the items, just like he always has since before he was able to read and write. (Either mom or myself would write up the list as per his dictations)
This one is mind blowing! Within the last few months, Nicole hurt her knee. When Kyle found out that my sister was out of commission and was having a difficult time getting around, he exclaimed “What? Well, can Aunt Nikki send my presents home for Christmas?” That was his big concern. Not for her, but for his gifts. He also called her to remind her to order his presents so they will arrive in time for Christmas. He is too much!
Recently, Kyle found out that his Aunt Nikki has to work a half day on Christmas Eve Day. We always celebrate Christmas the day before, a tradition that has always been since I can remember. That way Christmas Day is not so rushed and can be more relaxed. Well, once Kyle got word of his Aunt Nikki’s schedule, he freaked! “Can we still open presents throughout the day before she gets here?” he asked.
You see, ever since Kyle was a little tyke we set up Christmas Eve Day in that fashion so Kyle would enjoy each of his gifts, and more importantly so he wouldn’t explode while staring at the pile of wrapped packages under the tree.
It goes like this, once Kyle gets up, which is usually around 5:00 am or 6:00 am, he gets to pick one present to open. He always staked out the presents before hand and had a plan of attack walking into the day. That kid always knew the shapes of the boxes and the sounds made upon rattling. He would play, or put together, or whatever needed applied to the first gift, then by the time he was done with the first toy, it was time for him to pick the second, not necessarily every hour on the hour, but whenever it was all agreed upon. This continued all day, even after church into the evening. It was a great way to spread out the fun of Christmas and allowed Kyle to enjoy and play with each gift, not that all of them were toys. Nope, not with his Aunt Heather on the case bearing the unconventional gifts.
Anyway, Kyle was still holding this pre-arranged plan to heart for this Christmas Eve Day. He was also walking around talking about the items he was going to put together. I know he’s getting some Warmachine figurines that are little models to be glued and painted, but no one was getting him Legos or such. What is going on in that mind of his? He really wants to build something!
Another quick story. About a week ago, I was picking Kyle up off of the bus. I knew I was cutting it close, either the bus dropped him off or was on its way. I called Kyle to inform him that I was waiting for him in the driveway. He updated me that he was in the house. Great! In my mind, perfect timing. Well, I was told differently.
Kyle was not happy with my early arrival, questioning me why I was so early. I simply responded that I was and I told him to get his stuff together so we can leave. His response? “Well, can you wait I wanted to play this video game for a little bit.” Seriously? Are you kidding me? My response? “So you want me to sit in the driveway (in the cold) and wait for you to play a video game, that you play during the week?” Kyle’s response? Crickets. Then he said, “Well, ya, I really wanted to play this game and you weren’t suppose to be here till later.” Kyle’s tone was whiny and mine was getting angry. “Kyle! Are you suicidal? I can’t believe you actually expected me to sit in the car and wait for you to play a VIDEO game! Let alone ask me! Who do you think you are talking to?” More crickets. Then he proceeds to inform me, he still needs to get his stuff together, like that put me in my place, until I responded. “You’re not even ready? And yet you planned on playing a video game first? NO! You have five minutes!”
Needless to say, Kyle made it in time, not very happy with me, but almost realizing the mistake he made, almost. Yes, I did give him a good talking to.
I was telling another good friend of mine about this man boy phenomenon, while on the way to the gym. Her one nephew is going through the same stage, although he is a few years younger than Kyle. Her nephew is claiming to be nearly a teenager, (he’s only ten or eleven) and that he can watch “R” rated movies and he’s practically an adult. Yet, his actions scream child.
Sometimes I wonder if my brother was the same way, for I truly don’t remember or never paid attention. Ryan was always mature with his work ethic and drive. He could always work on cars, like adults, but sometimes would construct the strangest contraptions, the imagination of a kid. Who Does Kyle Favor More, His Dad?
I guess I should just face facts, Kyle is in deed a Piper, through and through. Maturity is secondary to us and sometimes never achieved. I love Kyle’s enthusiasm for Christmas, even though it’s about his gifts. Regardless, Kyle always did say “Christmas lights make the whole world beautiful.” Lighting Up the Holiday I also know Kyle does know the true meaning of Christmas, even though he doesn’t let on.
Kids do make Christmas!