The minute you become conscious that you are doing good, that’s the minute you have to stop because from then on it’s wrong. ~Paula Fox
As usual, we made it through another Christmas and New Years without any major issues. It was a bit warm for my tastes, I would’ve preferred a white Christmas, but it was a blessed time all the same. (I am loving the snow now!)
Kyle had another successful Christmas. This year’s theme? Warmachine. (Warmachine Tournament, Painting Warmachine) He received new figures and played a mean game with his Aunt Nikki. Most of Christmas consisted of him gluing, and admiring the new additions to his army. I can’t tell you, how many times he asked me to get him Loctite Super Glue, to keep his assembly line moving. Kyle recieved a few unconventional gifts from me, one being a red laptop messenger bag, the latest Wimpy Kid book (I know he’s too old, but he has the whole collection so I thought, Why not?) and Percy Jackson The Blood of Olympus (I found out upon Kyle unwrapping the book, that he already read it in the school library. Kudos to the school for supplying kids with current reading material.) We also managed to go to the movies to watch, The Hobbit: The Battle of Five Armies. Great times!
Sometimes, I believe Kyle is aware of how fortunate he is, yet I’m not always so sure. I do remind him, and bring it to his attention about those less fortunate in the world. Does it sink in? It has been my experience, that children do indeed get it and hear what is said or preached to them, but never let on. So, I guess the next question is, does he care? I believe Kyle’s participation with his youth group, and the community service they partake in, is a step in the right direction. Of course, these actions mean nothing unless it’s done from the heart. Who am I to say it’s not?
I worry about Kyle and his character and the man he will become. Sometimes, I worry so much, I don’t realize I can set by example, which in my opinion is the best way to teach. I’ve always tried to demonstrate being a good person, at least to the best of my ability, even though I fall short. I’m not a perfect person, so when I mess up, I take responsibility, and try and make things right. I don’t hide my mistakes, I explain to Kyle why I was wrong, and how to fix it. I’m always encouraging him to continue to be a good person and make decisions with good intentions, no matter what happens in life.
What brought this up? On Tuesday, this past week, I was at my sister’s in the D.C. Metro Area. We had to get up early, to go to the hospital for her to have outpatient knee surgery. Nothing major, just a simple routine to address her torn meniscus.
On a side note, it was a simple procedure. However, to my sister, she had MAJOR surgery and she acted as such. I bet her blood pressure was through the roof! After surgery, the doctor said he placed a band-aid on the entrance wound. Later this week, Nicole would defend her actions by saying, “Heather! I had major surgery!” and I would correct her by saying, “You have a band-aid on your knee!” Typical us.
We woke early morning, allowing enough time to make it through the fresh snow and traffic. I would like to clarify, the Pittsburgh area is pretty good about clearing the roads, especially when they have warning of a snow front coming through. However, in Virginia, they must have a shortage of salt trucks. No joke. We were on major Interstates, and the roads were completely covered. During our travels to and fro, we spotted one truck. One! I was flabbergasted!
Anyway, as we moved along, getting ready to make a left hand turn, there was a car in front of us not moving at the green light. Then, we saw the vehicle’s four-way lights begin to flash. Nicole, simply went around the car, and we were on our way.
Just then, it dawned me, when did we, referring to every human being, abandon our concern for others in roadside distress? I was not faulting my sister, or anyone else, because we’ve all done it. We assume the other motorist has a cell phone and has someone to call for help, or roadside assistance. When in reality, that might not be the case. Perhaps we’ve become callous to these instances because of our assumptions with our own electronic devices? Or we simply don’t care?
I believe people are innately good, and I believe they are genuinely concerned for his or her fellow neighbor. It has always been my experience, ever since I started driving, that people have helped me, or offered to do so, for one reason or another. Always! Playing Chicken with a Drunk Driver. So why don’t I now?
Believe it or not, when I’m driving I do. However, if I have Kyle with me, I tend not to, for fear of trouble seeking me out with my little man present. Regardless, I try to have good intentions, behind everything I do, even though it might seem like I don’t care. I believe the same goes for a majority of the population.
Perhaps we can all make a change for the better, in the new year! Even among all the hostage and terrorists situations taking place in Paris now. God Speed!
Happy New Year! 2015!