Silly things do cease to be silly if they are done by sensible people in an impudent way. ~Jane Austen
This is a bit silly, and anyone who knows me, can picture this one. I guess old habits stay with me, and this one certainly has in a big way, for about 14-years. I’d like to think that one day, Kyle is going to tell stories about his crazy Aunt Heather, and one such story will include this special phrase. To ensure Kyle truly understands, and knows this phrase was always delivered with warmth and love, for it comes straight from my heart, I’ll explain.
I have this thing I do with Kyle, (and sometimes with my dog and cat) which has spread to selected individuals, only at the right moment. It’s really pretty silly actually, but something worth noting. In fact, when I say this phrase to others, I always share stories about Kyle, my little Narrow. It goes to show, just how much that little bugger is always on my mind, and how much I care for him.
What’s the phrase? Instead of saying “There he is!”, as in Kyle walks into a room and I show my love and affection for him by focusing all my attention toward him. I’ve changed it slightly to “Dare he is!”
Why? Initially, it started when he was a baby, hence the baby talk. Also, sometimes I was so excited to see my little guy, I’d rush through the words to eliminate the “Th” and pick a letter at the front of the alphabet for quicker delivery. Plus, it was sillier to say “Dare” instead of “There”. At least Kyle got a kick out of it, and it made him giggle. Then, it became our thing. So it stuck.
When do I use this silly phrase? When Kyle was a little tyke, I’d say it with pure enthusiasm and gusto, upon him waking from a nap or from a long nights sleep. Sometimes I’d say it when he walked in the door or visa versa. Sometimes I’d say it out of nowhere just for the heck of it to make him smile, and show my love towards my Narrow. In recent times, I’d say it to get his attention, and if I wanted to see a smile. Especially, if he was being crabby or the tension was a bit overwhelming, to help lighten the mood. It usually worked. At least, after the argument, not necessarily during. Of course picture me saying “Dare he is.” over and over with all of my heart and soul, sporting a big old grin. Who can resist me? Not even Kyle!
In fact, over the years I’ve caught Kyle using this phrase, mostly towards our pets, but sometimes with his Aunt Nikki and with myself. He always did like to get a rise out of me, and that’s the best way to do it! Personally, I loved it when he tried to get my attention by saying “Dare she is. Hey Aunt Heather, dare she is!” That little stinker would flash me an ornery grin and look at me from the corner of his eye. LOVED THAT!
When I say it towards friends, it’s obviously not as frequent, but it’s a way for me to bring a smile to others, and possibly lighten their day. Plus, those who know the story, which is about everyone, appreciates its origins, and I enjoy sharing my joy of Kyle with others. Kyle and that silly phrase are such a part of me, naturally they’d go hand in hand.
The big question, how is it used? It was always sort of our own personal greeting. But it’s not a single line greeting. Oh no! It’s to be said in repetition, with each time getting louder, projecting more excitement, and enunciating each word deliberately. In the case of Kyle, usually I follow it up with a big hug and a kiss (later on the cheek).
Example: “Dare he is. Dare (pause) He Is! DARE (pause) HE (pause) IS!” and sometimes one for the road only quicker. “Dare-he-is.” It’s to be said with gusto, pure love and a huge smile. Not only is this greeting verbal, but it’s also body language and attitude, a good attitude. More than not, I’ve found myself saying it with my arms extended ready to embrace my little man.
Just talking about our silly greeting makes me want to give Kyle a big old hug. This is one thing I hope Kyle always remembers about me, and I hope he remembers it fondly with all of my love.