Each of us has a unique part to play in the healing of the world. ~Marianne Williamson
Happy 39th Birthday Ryan!
Today, Ryan would have turned 39 years old, and his son Kyle, is a teenager of 15 years. I can honestly say, I miss Ryan today like I did when he passed. Maybe a little more, just in a different way.
It’s weird, talking about a person’s birthday and in the same breath their death. Like it or not, I guess that’s the circle of life. Although, Ryan’s life circle was a bit shorter than anticipated and there are so many holes missing, I can only guess or imagine how they would have unfolded.
Since Kyle was Ryan’s everything, it would have been fun to watch Ryan parent and influence Kyle in all his activities, including band.
I bet Ryan would have been a band chaperone or at the very least helped in some way. Would I have been a band chaperone if Ryan was alive? You bet I would! With or without Ryan, I’m there to support my little man, and in turn I would have supported Ryan too. In fact, Ryan probably would have leaned on me to be involved, especially since I was as in band myself.
Ryan would have encouraged Kyle in school to keep up his grades, and he certainly would have welcomed my assistance. Ryan would have played a huge influence in Kyle’s hunting and fishing activities, not that my dad doesn’t now. It would be nice to go hunting with Ryan again, or even sit on a river bank and cast a few lines.
Usually when it’s one of our birthday’s we get a hold of Kyle to call the celebratory person to wish them a happy birthday. However, with Ryan, it would only be a reminder of someone not present, at least physically. Someone Kyle only knows from stories. Kyle is the one who lost the most when Ryan passed away.
Kyle’s a busy boy, but I hope he always remembers his family and his dad. While Kyle never remembered meeting Ryan, Ryan loved Kyle more than anything and would have done anything for that kid. I hope Kyle realizes that one day and knows who truly is there for him.
Happy Birthday Ryan!
Leave Ryan a birthday wish. Kyle would love to see it one day.